|Eulogy to my Mother Gladys
Margaret Dallaire (nee Lyons) by John Dallaire
April 17, 2011
Kindness, the kindest, most considerate person I have ever known. Kind to
family, kind to friends and kind to strangers she had never even met
before. That is just how she was, kind.
Smart but humble, there are many smart people in the world and a majority
of them will not hesitate to demonstrate just how smart they are and maybe
how smart you are not. Not Gladys, she would prefer to have you think you
were right rather than make you feel bad by proving you wrong or maybe she
might make a suggestion to help steer you toward the truth of the matter
Beautiful, if you took a look at the pictures around this room you can see
what I am talking about. Not only was she physically attractive it was way
she moved, gracefully, natural. Graceful, when she walked, even in her
later years she would glide across a room, when she spoke it was a
soothing voice, never loud or disconcerting. If you see any of examples of
her handwriting it was impeccable, her writings were like works of art.
Funny, Gladys had a great sense of humor and something more than that she
had absolutely no problem laughing at herself. She was a joy to be with
and she appreciated and respected the people around her. She could take
any ribbing her Son-In-Laws threw at her and would sometimes give it right
back to them two-fold if she felt inclined.
Caring and Loving, Gladys had a big heart and was always there to help her
family and friends with anything they needed if she could help. She loved
animals, she loved nature and she always took into account peoples
feelings. I don’t think anyone could possibly ask for a sweeter more
Resourceful, I imagine growing up during the depression she learned that
you do the best with what you have, so rather than throw out a piece of
clothing that may not be the latest style or suit her the best Gladys
would modify it to meet hers needs. Example: I recall giving her a new
housecoat as a Christmas gift a few years back and of course she was
thrilled and very thankful when she opened it, loved it, “Oh this is
beautiful, just what I needed, thank you so much!” (it could have been a
skateboard she would have said the same thing). A few months later while
visiting my wife Kathy noticed that the same housecoat we had gotten her
lost it had hood and had grown a set of pockets!
Respectful, I would challenge anyone here to tell me if they have ever
heard Gladys utter an ill word or action to anyone, ever. (Pause),
exactly, because that would not have helped anyone. It is too bad more
people in the world could not be like Gladys as it would be a much better
Born: to Frank & Cora Lyons on March 25, 1916, four
brothers and sister Rita lifelong best friend. Had horses Mutt and Jeff
and Ol’ Colonel whom the children rode..
Young Lady: Graduated Walkerville High School, was “ Runner-up
Teacher: Graduated Teachers College and taught for 7 years at
Sweetheart / Wife: Caught the eye of John Dallaire and married
Sept, 5th 1942
Mother / Super Hero: Had her five girls from Feb 1944 to Feb 1950.
Son 1960. Now stop a moment and consider: Picture December 1949, Gladys 7
months pregnant looking after four little girls and a husband and home,
can you imagine? You here of someone batting 350 or scoring 50 goals in a
season, some call them heroes. No, this was a hero, Gladys was a
Grandmother/ Widow / Soldier: Became Grandmother June 1965 and then
April 4th 1966 lost her husband suddenly. It must have been devastating
but Gladys did not falter but instead regrouped and soldiered on.
Mother-In-law / Great-Grandmother: Non-Meddling Mother in Law, if
there was a award for it Gladys would have won the award for “Most
Non-Meddling Mother-In-Law. She was also a caring and loving
Angel: Reuniting with Johnny, she had a job to complete here on
earth but now will be back in the arms of her too-soon lost love / Angel
All-Star Team, I am sure she would be a starter on the Angel All Star Team
but knowing Gladys if another Angel wanted her spot she would step aside.
Gladys will truly be missed by all of us and I am sure that she would hope
that we can all remember her examples of what is truly important in life
and how to treat other people. So, the next time you feel the need to lash
out at someone or feel sorry for yourself or your condition, the next time
you have the chance to reach out and help someone with a kind word or
action you will think of Gladys and do the right thing.
On behalf of the Family I would like to thank the 4th floor nursing staff
at Metropolitan Hospital for their excellent work and caring, Family
First, the 143 Legion but most of all I want to thank all of you for your
thoughts and prayers and for your presence here today. I am sure Gladys
would be very impressed.
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